Guidelines For Communicating Emotions Effectivel

Guidelines for Communicating Emotions Effectively (pp. 182–187):1. Identify your emotions: Become aware of what you are feeling. If there are multiple emotions, notice which one or ones are dominant at the moment.2. Choose how to express emotions: Decide whether you want to communicate your feelings. If not, consider emotion work to help manage your feelings (see Wood, pp. 183-184). If so, decide with whom, when, and where.3. Own your feelings: Use "I" language to take responsibility for your feelings and reduce the likelihood for others to react defensively.4. Monitor your self-talk: Listening to how you communicate with your self can help identify self-defeating ideas that can become self-fulfilling prophecies.5. Adopt a rational-emotive approach to feelings: Look for commonalities between emotionally distressing situations, and notice your self-talk in those situations to identify and challenge debilitating fallacies.6. Respond sensitively when others communicate emotions: Show that you are willing to discuss emotional topics by listening mindfully and accepting where they are at the moment, rather than making general statements like "It'll be okay" or trying to fix their problems.